Dating after the death of a girlfriend
However, I know that he is going through something completely different. He was so upset to see me get upset about the possibility of him not being ready. As we both said, we never expected something like this to happen.
We have been extremely open and honest with each other. I guess my question is this: Is it possible that even though he is confused and afraid now, he will want to have a loving, committed relationship with me?
That being said, I know that grief has no time limit and I think the fact that he is making the effort to work through it is a good thing.
In the past three years I have lost both of my parents and my grandmother so I know the grief process.
As you’ll see from the passages below, everyone’s reaction to their circumstance, opinions and experiences are going to be different, so it’s important to keep in mind the specific needs of your match as you progress.
I am in my mid-twenties and my fiancé died in early 2011.
I coped better than I thought I would (he was sick for some time before he died so there was time to wonder) and have continued on with my life in many ways, but I do still miss him and think about him everyday.
No one else can tell you what you are feeling, so only by being in touch with your own emotions can you know if you’re ready.
Everyone mourns differently, so widows/widowers must be careful not to let other people dictate the speed of their recovery.”“Too many variables to say what is right for anyone the old year thing is probably wise as a minimum. I didn’t quite make the 1 year wait to date thing…and I made a mess, I think I will use 5 years to remarry as a minimum.“This is variable, and having been married to a widower, been widowed and later marrying another widower as well as encountering several men on the widow/widower board, I have noticed that men seem to be ready earlier than women.